The truth about day-of wedding coordination is that it’s doesn’t exist; it’s not a real service.
The terms Day of Coordination and Day of Coordinator have been bandied about in the wedding industry for oh, I don’t know how many years, but it’s been a while.
There’s been a movement amongst wedding pros to change the term from Day of Coordination/Coordinator to Month of Coordinator/ion or Wedding Day Manager/ment – which has led to confusion amongst couples seeking a Day of Coordinator for their wedding.
So today I’m clearing things up.
If you’ve ever planned a wedding, or any event, or are in the midst of planning a wedding, you know how many details there are to think of and attend to and how much time is spent figuring out all of those details. There are days when your head feels like it’s ready to explode or turn to mush from wedding overload. Can you imagine trying to figure out all those details and logistics in a day, scratch that, a few hours before a wedding is supposed to begin?! NO.
The Truth About Day of Wedding Coordination
Expecting someone to step in on your wedding day and coordinate all the details and plans you’ve made for the last 12-18 months isn’t a thing. And if you meet or even consider hiring someone who says they can do just that I would run away. Far away.
Most Day of Coordinators (or DOCs – trying to be efficient in my terminology) start assisting their couples at least a month before their wedding if not before. Hence the coining of the term, Month of Coordinator.
“Expecting someone to step in on your wedding day and coordinate all the details and plans you’ve made for the last 12-18 months isn’t a thing.”
Day of Coordination typically is the hardest aspect to manage – it’s like jumping on a moving train (which I love – the analogy not jumping onto locomotives 🙂) and trying to keep things under control.
A wedding day is a living, moving, breathing event with a lot of personalities and opinions to navigate. Trying to take that on in one day is unrealistic, not to mention unimaginable, to say the least.
While your DOC probably won’t jump into the fray of your wedding planning details until their services begin, sharing vendor contact information with them is a great way to keep them up to speed on the team you’re assembling and your planning status.
“Don’t be afraid to interview a few coordinators before making a final decision and most importantly ask them questions!”
As with all big decisions, do your research. Find a pro whom you can relate to and communicate easily with. Don’t be afraid to interview a few coordinators before making a final decision and most importantly ask them questions! If you find options on the furthest ends of the pricing spectrum, there is probably a reason and don’t be afraid to ask about their experience level (how many weddings have they coordinated, do they have experience coordinating weddings like yours, etc.) and their process for coordinating weddings.
Day of Wedding Coordination can free you and your fiancé up to enjoy your wedding day. It’s absolutely necessary, however, to understand and accept what it is, what it is not, what you’re asking for, and what you’re buying into.
Do your research and be open, honest and upfront with your potential DOC You’ll have the day of your life and we can be the life-saver you hired us to be!
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